So, I officially have a boyfriend.

We didn't intend for things to move as quickly as they did. We tried, in the beginning, to take things slowly. I continued to pursue interests in other people, but found myself completely un-interested in being physically intimate with anyone else. I even denied a kiss from a very cute, very smart, very funny, very nice, very sexy guy after he spent an evening at my house with me talking, hanging out, and drinking wine. And I LOVE kissin', dudes. I didn't deny the kiss because I thought it would hurt or upset Ty, but because I just didn't feel like kissing anyone other than Ty.

So, a little over a week ago, when Ty turned to me and said "This is going to sound ridiculous, but I really want to ask you this. Will you be my girlfriend?", I didn't hesitate to say "Yes!!!".

It's been about a month since our first "date", and we've been seeing more and more of each other, and we keep finding more things in common, as far as our values, or views (religious, political, etc.), and our interests. I am constantly floored by how comfortable we feel together, and by how well we fit in with each others friends, and by how crazy about each other we are.

Last night, he was asking me if I remembered what I thought about him when we first met, about two years ago. I told him that at the time I met him, I was just beginning to explore the concept of having an open marriage, and I was crazy-crushing on Lance (who I actually met Ty through). I thought that Ty was a really nice guy, that he was cute, and funny, and had a lot in common with me. I also thought that crushing on two of Ryan's co-workers simultaneously would be a Very Bad Thing, and knew that Ty had a girlfriend, so I didn't really consider anything beyond friendship at that point. He mentioned that while yes, he did have a girlfriend, they were also in an open relationship. I think it's a good thing I didn't know that at the time. :x

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One of my co-workers brought in a magazine today, because it had a Q&A and photo of Adam Levine (the frontman for Maroon 5), who she knows I'm madly in love with.

So, I've got it propped up against my monitor, and whenever I start to feel crabby, or sad, or stressed, I just shift my glance down toward Adam, gazing at me from the pages of Rolling Stone like he wants to bone my brains out.

Please do, Adam. Please do.

;)

So...a few weeks ago, while out with some friends, I ran into my friend Ty. (I've mentioned him here and there on LJ before, but probably not lately.) After we greeted each other with a smile and a warm hug, he confessed that he had a...well...confession. He said that he had been thinking about calling me, and wanting to hang out sometime, but wasn't sure if that would be "inappropriate". (While they aren't close friends or anything, he and Ryan work for the same employer. Ty builds and repairs stringed instruments.)

We've hung out together, both one on one and in groups several times in the past, so I said that I'd be more than happy to hang out again, and that I was pretty sure a phone call never hurt anybody. ;)

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Boy, am I glad that is over! :x

Friday night, I hosted a ladies night (later named Vag Fest) at my house. Out of the 30-some women I invited, 4 showed up. Even though it was a small group, we're all pretty awesome vagina owners, so we had a blast. We barely put a dent in all of the food I made, which meant that I didn't really have to cook for the rest of the weekend, lol. We ended up heading to a bar near my house, and eventually ended up down-town, after which Lisa and I were driven home by a cab driver who thought my name was Chihuahua. That was a first. After I arrived home, I ended up staying up until the wee hours of the morning chatting with adudeabides and yayheaven.

My experiences Friday evening got me pondering on why I often find it challenging to develop close friendships with women. I'll save those ponderings for another day, though.

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A special thank you to adudeabides, yayheaven, and lotus_n_my_hair. Whether or not you realized it, you made my lonely weekend a lot less lonely. You are wonderful friends. :)

Today, it's back to the grind at work. Both my manager and supervisor are out this week, so I'll likely be signed on to the LJ Chat thing-o (the only IM I can use at work) most of the week. Hit me up! :D

For the record, This still holds true. :-)

As you may have guessed, I've had a delightful weekend. That compounded with some of the reading and introspecting (word?) that I've been up to lately has me seeing the world in a new and beautiful way. And it's not a rose-colored glasses kind of thing, either, because I still see all the pain and hate and ugliness in the world, but I accept it as part of the beauty. Part of the whole picture. There is balance. Balance is good. Balance is beauty.

( This Quote, )

which I came across in mnarra's journal while perusing my friends list this morning gave me even more food for thought. I think it's a valuable, universal lesson. Your thoughts?


I've been making lots of progress on my endeavors for personal growth, particularly as they relate to social anxieties and discomfort. I was "on my own", socially speaking, for the majority of the weekend, and you know what? I survived. Not only did I survive, but I had a great time, and saw lots of great people who I don't often see. I almost talked my self into staying home Saturday night, but I'm glad I forced myself out of the house, because I would have missed out on an awesome evening.

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What does it mean when a woman (who I presume to be straight) says: "I have a woman crush on you."?



I don't know exactly what it means, but I know it was nice to hear after the woman who told me sister was a million times prettier than me, and that I'd never be as pretty as my sister.

Gosh. That just never gets old, being told how much prettier than me my sister is. Seriously. I haven't heard it enough in my life. I should start walking around with a sign around my neck that says "Yes, I know my sister is prettier than me.", so people will cease feeling the need to keep informing me.


In other news, my husband loves me to pieces. At least he thinks I'm the prettier one. :)



But yeah, seriously, what's a "woman crush"?!?

Not to exclude my exclusively gay or exclusively heterosexual friends, but for the sake of this poll, if you are not open to the idea of hitting on or flirting with both males and females, please place yourself in the shoes of someone who is before voting. There is one poll for women, one for men. If you are trans-gendered, please answer the poll for the gender you associate yourself with the most.

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Poll #777946
Open to: All, detailed results viewable to: All

WOMEN: Which of the following do you believe to be most accurate?

MEN: Same question

Please show your work! :)



P.S. I'd like to get as many responses on this as possible, so if you wouldn't mind pointing your LJ friends here, I'd be grateful.

My job can, at times, be quite stressful and un-rewarding. I often feel as though my work as a trainer and support to the medical receptionists is under appreciated. Every so often, though, someone does take the time to show appreciation, in various ways, for the work I do.

Each time I complete a new hire training session (which lasts two weeks), my supervisor sends out an e-mail to the trainees asking for feedback on my performance. She then passes the feedback on to me.

In my most recent new hire session, there was a girl my age who, in addition to being intelligent, focused, funny, and enthusiastic, was incredibly cute. (I developed a bit of crush on her, actually.)

Anyway, this morning in my in-box was her training feedback which concluded with:

I feel fortunate to have had Joella as my trainer. She was exceptionally patient and helpful. She created a stress-free environment that made learning the computer system seem easy and fun. I felt prepared going into my position with the training she provided and reassured that she is only a phone call away if I have any questions or concerns. I hope she is being generously compensated for her incredible job performance.

Now that was a nice start to my Monday. :)

I wonder if she wants to go out some time? ;x