Argh. Trying to do this pro se divorce thing gets a little more frustrating and confusing with each step. I was under the impression that the pile of paperwork to be completed needed to be brought to the final hearing. Upon attempting to schedule said hearing, I was informed that it needs to be completed and filed prior to scheduling the hearing. Hopefully by this time next week, I'll have a final hearing scheduled, and the end of all this will be within reach.

In other divorce news, the paperwork regarding the transfer of our property from us to me has now been filed with the register of deeds, which means I am officially, legally, the sole owner of my property. What a wonderful feeling! I've spent the last week cleaning, organizing (read: throwing a bunch of shit out), and re-arranging my house, to support the feeling of the house being my own. The energy in the house has completely changed for the better, and I can't wait until the re-organization/re-arranging is complete.

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I want this effing divorce to be OVER. Like, yesterday.

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With the exception of the divorce crap-o-la, I have to say that life is pretty good to me these days, for the most part.

So, I officially have a boyfriend.

We didn't intend for things to move as quickly as they did. We tried, in the beginning, to take things slowly. I continued to pursue interests in other people, but found myself completely un-interested in being physically intimate with anyone else. I even denied a kiss from a very cute, very smart, very funny, very nice, very sexy guy after he spent an evening at my house with me talking, hanging out, and drinking wine. And I LOVE kissin', dudes. I didn't deny the kiss because I thought it would hurt or upset Ty, but because I just didn't feel like kissing anyone other than Ty.

So, a little over a week ago, when Ty turned to me and said "This is going to sound ridiculous, but I really want to ask you this. Will you be my girlfriend?", I didn't hesitate to say "Yes!!!".

It's been about a month since our first "date", and we've been seeing more and more of each other, and we keep finding more things in common, as far as our values, or views (religious, political, etc.), and our interests. I am constantly floored by how comfortable we feel together, and by how well we fit in with each others friends, and by how crazy about each other we are.

Last night, he was asking me if I remembered what I thought about him when we first met, about two years ago. I told him that at the time I met him, I was just beginning to explore the concept of having an open marriage, and I was crazy-crushing on Lance (who I actually met Ty through). I thought that Ty was a really nice guy, that he was cute, and funny, and had a lot in common with me. I also thought that crushing on two of Ryan's co-workers simultaneously would be a Very Bad Thing, and knew that Ty had a girlfriend, so I didn't really consider anything beyond friendship at that point. He mentioned that while yes, he did have a girlfriend, they were also in an open relationship. I think it's a good thing I didn't know that at the time. :x

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